Relationship Advice ow to Break Up With Your Live-in Boyfriend

Hi, my name is Reka Morvay. I'm a psychologist and I'm going to talk to you today about how to break up with your live-in boyfriend. In this situation you have lived with this person for a while probably, and it is not very much different from a divorce except perhaps you don't have to go through all the paperwork. But in all other important aspects, you share a household, you probably share furniture and you share things that you own, television, etcetera. So you have to be doubly careful and doubly tolerant in this situation where you have to sit down and discuss who gets what, who gets to stay in the apartment, who gets to - who has to move out. This is going to be a very, very emotional situation in which you will probably escalate and you will probably build up all of those emotional problems that have led to the breakup itself. So try to stay calm and try to stay objective about how to divide your assets and how to proceed with this breakup. Try to play fair and try to be nice. Remember this is somebody that you chose to live with for a long time, and try to show that kind of consideration for this person so that you can have the least painful and the best possible move out situation that you can possibly have. Breaking up with someone after you have been living together is a very complicated situation. In all aspects it more resembles a divorce than a regular breakup where you've retained your own living situation and where you have your own life. So it is very important to be able to sit down calmly and discuss steps for the future with your partner. Discuss the lease of the apartment, who will get it and who will have to move out, who will get what furniture, who stays, who goes, you have to be very patient and very understanding, it's going to be a painful and complicated situation and the best thing you can do is to try to stay calm and stay objective and be respectful towards your partner.

Professor Janet Reibstein offers Relationship advice on relationship arguing

We know that all couples bicker, they argue, it seems to be quite a normal part of relationships. When does it become a problem though? It becomes a problem in two major ways. One is when the balance of negativity versus positive feelings goes in the negative side. So your experience of each other is that you don't agree, that you don't understand each other, that you can't accept your differences and do anything about them. The other way it becomes a problem, is when the management of conflict goes out of control and you have high levels of conflict that, um, wound each other and that are also become, if you have children around, become the children's experience of you, because children do very badly when there are high levels of conflict around. I have to say, adults do very badly when there are high levels of conflict around. So the management of conflict seems to be the key to having relationships be successful. It's one of the keys. Arguing/Rowing, is it always bad? By no means, every couple needs to learn how to argue well, because every couple has differences. So they have to know how to hear each other's different views and they have to be able to tolerate the difference, and they have to be able to feel understood. That can be a way of learning about each other. There is good arguing and there is bad arguing, and I think couples who manage it well, are people who have boundaries around their arguments, so they don't, there are certain things you do not say because if you say them, you can't ever make someone feel ok about them. You also, another good arguing strategy is that, you take time out so that you monitor when you are getting out of control and actually stay away from the thing that is stimulating you.

Relationship Advice ow to Keep Your Man Faithful

Hi my name is Reka Morvay. I'm a psychologist and I'm going to talk to you today about how to keep your man faithful. If you have a happy and fulfilled relationship and if you have very clear boundaries on what kind of behaviors you will accept then I think this is the best and easiest way to keep your man faithful. The first one is a really obvious step. If you have a man who is happy in a relationship then they are much much less likely to go and look for fulfillment outside the needs of the relationship. These may not just necessarily be sexual needs. Maybe they're needs for companionship. Maybe they are needs for new time, fun time spent together with somebody. So sex is a big thing but it is not the only feature in the relationship that might draw a man outside the relationship. So the first thing you need to make sure is that both of you are happy in the relationship and the reason it is important for you to be happy and not just for your man to be happy is because everybody likes for their partner to be happy and everybody likes to feel that they are making their partner happy so in order to keep your man faithful it is important to keep a happy and healthy relationship and the second thing that is important is to have very clearly drawn out rules for what will happen if your man is unfaithful to you. If he knows without a doubt that you will leave him if he has another relationship outside this one then I think that's a very clear detriment. Whereas if you have never discussed it, you don't exactly know, you only implied or maybe you thought it was understood what your expectations are in terms of cheating and fidelity then maybe this is not a clear situation for him or maybe he will even just use it and say well you never said that it's not o'kay for me to flirt with someone or it's not o'kay for me to kiss somebody else or maybe I was just drunk at a party and it just happened. So you need to be really really very clear about what is acceptable and what is not and what the consequences will be and then you will need to make sure that you follow through on those consequences.

Relationship Advic reaking Up ow to Get Over Heartbreak

We're going to be talking about relationships today and relationships that actually didn't work out the way you might have wanted them to. This is how to get over heartbreak. My name is Joe Cuenco, I'm with family resources. What's the best way to get over heartbreak? Well, heartbreak implies a much longer term relationship and much deeper implications then just the relationship breakup. It means that your heart and your soul were engaged and you've got a deep rooted longing and loss for your soul. But, you really need to deal with two issues, the basic issues, you need to deal with your pride and with the void in your life because you've really been hurt down deep into your soul. You're really going to need to asses who you are as an individual, take stock of the basic qualities that you have, basically the way you behave. Maybe there's some voids in your personal life, what you contribute to a relationship that really are the vacuum, one of the reasons why your relationship didn't work out. So, you really need to work on strengthening those skills, building from there, building an inventory of skills that you could possibly learn at a workshop or with marriage education counseling. It really gets to the point to where you are comfortable as an individual, that you are a full contributer to relationship. But, the other thing that you need to deal with is the void in your life, the love that you used to have. I would reach out to family and friends and those who are supportive of you. Spend time with them, have them engage in different activities with you. Get out of the house, get out there and network. Get away from perhaps the apartment where you guys used to live or the common things that you used to do, do something different. It really is a different view point to get out of those different habits. So, grieve the right amount of time, move on and do the right things. Join clubs, associations, spend time in theater, volunteering in the community, doing something positive you'll feel better about yourself. You want to feel good and confident. Then, once you feel good and confident about yourself then you'll be in a better position to contribute to that next relationship and that's all about how you move on and deal with heartbreak. I'm Joe Cuenco with family resources, relationships for life.

Marriage & Relationship Advice ow to Date Your Husband

We're in the relationship dating world but with a little different twist. Today were going to be talking about how to date your husband. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources. Just how would one go about dating your husband? Well this is an interesting question because couples often lose site of the romanticism that they once had when they first met together. And that's real important. It's real important to focus on that, focus on the fundamental love that you had that brought, actually brought you together and which started everything going and growing. It's very important to spend some quality time together, some separate time together and couples really need to carve that out so that they have this special and unique time to one another. You can go to candlelight dinners at a restaurant, you can cook a candlelight dinner at home or just carve out a particular time to where this is what you and I, your husband and you are going to be doing that's going to be special and unique for themselves. Think about dressing for success. Have you been to a Victoria's Secrets store? Are you doing things like, you know wearing things that entice him, that show him that he's special, that you're still special, that you still love one another. It's really important. Surprise him. Play some games. Matter of fact, makes some bets. It's a real fun situation where the bet is some type of physical reward. You're going to get a lot more attention from him than if it's something else. So realistically you want to create attention, you want to get out of the routine, but you need to make sure that the fundamental issues in the relationship are all solid, because if somethings out of whack, like for example you're spending three or four nights a week out with your girlfriends, coming at the front door and see him in saran wrap, isn't going to help that situation. So there's a lot of current material. If you Google ten best dates or married dates, there's a lot of information out there from the experts that'll help you out. So dating your husband is a great way to move the relationship forward and rebuild that love and rekindle that fire that's so key. I'm Joe Cuenco from Family Resources, Relationships for Life.

Relationship Advice ow to Stop a Breakup

Hi, my name is Reka Morvay. I'm a psychologist, and I'm going to talk to you today, about how to stop a breakup. Now, if your relationship has progressed to the level of problems, where you foresee that perhaps walking away from the situation, may be an attractive choice, for either of you, then it is likely that the thought of breaking up, has probably entered your mind, or your partner's mind, and in this situation, you need to take stock of the relationship, and really sit down, and consider, whether this is a relationship that you want to keep, and you want to keep working on, because if you come to the decision that you want to stop this breakup, that you don't' want to give it a chance, then first of all, you need to figure out within yourself, what exactly it is about the relationship that is problematic. What are those need of yours or your partners, that are not being fulfilled? Is your life not the way that you would imagine it, with a partner, that would make you happy? And once you figure it out, perhaps with the help of a counselor, what those needs are, that are currently not being met. It is time to sit down with your partner, and to really think, and really discuss what their needs are, and what you can do to help meet their needs. It is time to take time out, for the relationship, and to really focus on recovering, and to fixing those problems, that brought you to this situation, where you might be considering breaking up.

How to Repair Relationships elationship Advic ant Vs. Have

All right. We realize that we've got a problem. What I want you to do, at this point, is a little bit of visualization. And you might even do it writing it down, pen and paper. Don't necessarily think in terms of pros and cons. But in this relationship, with whomever it's with, what would be the ideal relationship? What would be what you would want? And put it down in concrete terms. The first thing you have to do is figure out what it is you want. Now, in terms of this problem that we've recognized, now we have to look at why what we have is not what we want. What is it that we have? And I think it's a really good idea, even if you're visualizing this, to write it down. This is what I want. I want A, B, C, D, E. This is what I have. Well I have A, B, and C, but I don't have D and E. So you can compare what you want versus what you have. And that helps you, in addition to recognizing the problem, to start to create this ideal relationship, as you begin to repair it.