Overcompensation doesn't mean that you're a CEO of a major corporation and you're being paid too much. It may mean that it's your way of overcoming shyness. This is Doctor Paul author of Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating, and let me tell you about shyness. Often people overcompensate for what they really are and sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes people are very, very shy. They may be very talented but for some reason in their past they have had a put down of some sort by some people, or one person that doesn't allow them to come out of what otherwise would be a shell. Then they go within. Now sometimes people overcompensate for that by doing something gregarious. Where as, a very famous comedic actor, who I will not mention but he overcame a seriously handicapped childhood, through poverty, and now one of the most entertaining humorous around. He overcompensated for his lack as a child. Now we're looking at people who are shy. We find sometimes, men who overcompensate by being body builders. They overcompensate for that shyness by being macho. That often times, is relevant to insecurity. Overcoming that shyness, by overcompensating can be as bad or worse than the shyness itself. Accept people for what they are and they'll accept you for who you are. Shyness comes from within, not from without. People are willing to listen to what you have to say, willing to feel comfortable with you only if you feel comfortable with them. So that's what shyness is all about, kind of a selfish thing, so don't be selfish. Offer yourself to others. This is Doctor Paul, may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.