Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, I'm a life and relationship coach and owner of NY Dating Coach in New York City. In this clip we'll talk about when to bring physical intimacy into a relationship. And my rule on that is 10 dates. And I know I hear all the guys out there going 10 dates? But men and women's brains are made up of different chemicals and on the man's mind, its, that's the objective and for the women, they bond more so I really think you need to take the time to date and court each other and get to know each other so that there's an emotional attachment before you bring it to the next level. That's why a lot of women, its like if you bring that in too quickly and then you never hear from them again, you're wondering what happened, you felt like you had this great connection. Well his brain is wired differently so if he wasn't emotionally attracted to you, then that chemical thing he got his fix and then he's not interested in you anymore, he lost interest. So in order to make sure that its reciprocated in both ways, he needs time to catch up to the oxytocin that you have going in your brain. I'm Donna Barnes, life and dating coach in New York City.