Hi, I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a life and relationship coach and owner of NY Dating Coach in New York City. In this clip, we're going to talk about coping with a break up, something that unfortunately we all usually go through and it's a really painful thing. So the most important thing is to give yourself a little bit of time to grieve. You do need to grieve it. But then do your best to put it behind you and move on and you do that by removing all stimulus. Get rid of all pictures, anything he used to gave you, don't go to the same places unless it's something unavoidable. If it's someplace unavoidable, you need to go back there and make a new fresh memory. Go with your best friends. Create a new positive memory from that same place and then it won't stimulate you in a bad way every time you go there. If you still have baggage you can't get rid of, write him a letter, or her a letter. But don't mail it. Just get all of your feelings out, put it all down, burn it if you feel like it, but just don't mail it. Put it behind you, so give yourself some time to breathe. Get rid of all pictures, everything...think happy thoughts. If you start playing that highlight reel that all the good things, cut it in half and start thinking something happy instead. This is Donna Barnes, life and dating coach In New York City.