Hi, I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a life and relationship coach. And owner of NY Dating Coach in New York City. In this clip we'll talk about can you be friends with your ex or not. I would say that depends on whether you're currently in another relationship or not. I think it's, it's certainly nice to have friends and not leave in a bad situation. If there wasn't something bad that happened in that relationship then of course you can be friends but it depends on whether there's still emotional feelings of attachment to that person or not because then that's just damaging for you. If you're still wanting to be romantically involved with somebody who doesn't want that from you, it's better to just cut them off and get them out of your life completely. If you've both moved completely past it, you really are just friends then that's fine. But if you have a new person in your life that's uncomfortable with that, you need to make them your priority. And if it's going to be upsetting to them for you to keep that relationship then rethink that and let that person know hey look, I care about you but I'm trying to make this relationship work so I can't be your friend for now. This is Donna Barnes, life and dating coach in New York City.