Heya playas, my name is Josh. I'm twenty four years old and I live in New York. I enjoy making video projects and learning about the human mind and I really do love long walks on the beach. What's the real secret behind online dating? Is it possible to list a few keywords and truly find the love of your life? Plenty of dating websites boast about their ability to match people up. But are their search algorithms quantifiable in any way? These websites are good at matching people based on their likeness but when it comes to true compatibility in the long term they fail. How accurate can your prediction be that two people are meant to be together? That's just one of the problems with these dating websites. Don't get me wrong, I'm not anti-online dating, setting up a profile actually lets other people who don't know you know a little bit about your interest. You can get a true insight on what type of music they like, what they would do during a zombie apocalypse and other useless stuff that you probably wouldn't ask on a first date. I'm a firm believer that the majority of the connection happens when the two people meet in person. Most of these dating websites have huge online directories that link to the people that you probably wouldn't meet unless you were introduced by a friend or haphazardly ran into them in person. But the key point all this is to push to meet them in person. A lot of times people get wrapped up in online flirting because it's so much easier abd you really have nothing to lose. But keeping it at that level because you're afraid to meet in person causes you to miss out on most of the subtleties of human connection such as tone of voice, body language and tonality. One of the studies that I came across that mentioned the turn-ons for men when it comes online dating include a great smile, a good sense of humor and a great figure. For women the terms they are looking for include a good sense of humor, a connection over music, books, and movies and then a great smile. If you are going to take the online dating route, here's a tip to help your profile standout. Don't bury your unique qualities or interests, highlight them. A lot of guys write things like "I'm just an average guy" or "I'm really fun once you get to know me". Don't talk about it, be about it. To have an interesting profile you have to have a interesting life. Which I'm ninety-nine point nine percent sure you do. Like this video if you think online dating should be more about being yourself and less about trying to impress people. Leave a comment letting me know, have you ever joined an online dating website? Horror stories, success stories? Share them below. And subscribe to the channel for more tips on upping your game and getting the things you want in life. As always guys love and peace. What I found really interesting is that both men and women are turned off by negative people, people looking to cheat or people who are just boring couch potatoes. And in regards to the photos that you upload on that dating website, the truth is guys judge women by their weight and women judge men by their hair cut and clothing. So, always try to look sharp. You know?