Me thinks the man protests too much, to kind of quote Shakespeare. How not to think when you're trying to get a girlfriend. This is Doctor Paul, author of Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating, and host of Ask Doctor Paul. The harder you try, the less you're going to get. If you have the mindset that "I want to find a girlfriend", you will subconsciously communicate that you everyone around you. And guess what happens? You have "desperate" written right across your forehead, and that will never work. You are needy! Always go from a position of strength. Act as if you don't need it. You want a loan from the bank? Walk in and act as if you don't need it. Say, "Look, you know, I've gotta check with some other banks." That's when you get success. And an odd thing happens. When you least expect it, I've heard this over and over, but I've also experienced it, happily experienced it, the time that you least expect that you're going to meet someone, it happens, like that! I can remember very distinctly it happening to me. And I remember caller after caller saying, "I didn't expect it. I wasn't looking for it. I gave up looking for it, and suddenly it happened." The fates will help you, please believe that, because it's the psychological presentation you make with your body language that makes it happen for you in many ways. But there still is that fate factor. This is Doctor Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.