any of you guys to play golf know what a sand trap happens to be not keep that in mind and the question is how to get back with an ex-girlfriend this is doctor paul alter boomer girls a boomer woman's guide to men and dating and host of ask doctor paul okay you want to get back with an ex-girlfriend you know it's not a sam trap maybe it was up front and you've got caught well now's the time to let bygones be bygones and you want to do that but you must convince her to do that how does she respond and how exhibition and why is she annex issue next because she moved to another state and now she's back issue next because you had a real serious falling out issue next because you lost interest or she lost interest you need to address the problem right op brought because if you don't is going to be the elephant in the room you can sit and talk to her for ever don't addressed the reason why that person has become your ex-girlfriend or you could become her ex-boyfriend than it is not going to work the issue don't cry sidestep it don't try to make something more than it is forget the apology thing i mean you can't say i'm really really upset that it happened you know it's unfortunate that it happened you know maybe a two-way street maintain your dignity and just remember if you confront the issues and listen then you're going to have a greater chance of success this is doctor paul that your fantasies of the day the your realities of tomorrow