hi my name is jessica claire and i'm dating coach for new york dating coach and we're here in new york city in this clip we're going to talk about how to make that first phone call now i hear from and all the time that they don't like talking on the phone especially with women and i hear from him in all the time them and want to talk to them on the phone bay hang up quickly rather awkward now the best way to avoid it this situation altogether is to make sure your phone calls are short and sweet and they're all about data are not about a motion generally women prefer to talk about emotion how they feel about things what they liked about something whereas men like to give the fax this team won this was score this is how it went down so keep it to the data hi jamie this is todd i'm calling you to find out what we're doing this i'm in a hurry i can't talk long those are the kinds of things you can say to keep your phone conversation really short don't be afraid don't psych yourself out if you have to leave a message don't say anything in the message just say this is todd call me back when she's forced to make a first phone call also as the memories don't be afraid to use the text message if you're meeting someone text them pure directions the only time you should ever really call them is when your on the way as a polite jessica let them know that you're still coming last but not least always and the phone conversations sweetly ike it was great stock to u i'll look forward to seeing you ever long pause never not quick movement this is jessica claire with new york dating coats and this is then how to make that first phone call