The Grapes of Wrath was a book written by John Steinbeck. What you don't want in your life is grapes that cause wrath. How do you do date a heavy drinker? This is Doctor Paul, author of Boomer Girl Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of Ask Doctor Paul. Dating a heavy drinker requires a lot of courage. There's a fine between the alcholic and the heavy drinker. Well I'm not certain I can answer you as to where it is, but you will know the difference, just make that heavy drinker stays on this side of that line. And there are heavy drinkers out there who are successful, they get up every day and go to work and one of my definitions of an alcoholic is someone who doesn't get up and go to work and drinks instead. So, you're dating a heavy drinker, all right, how does that work? You simply recognize it for what it is. and understand with this person that you're not going to become angry over it. Make certain that this is not a heavy drinker who becomes angry and violent, that is not acceptable, and oftentimes that happens. Make certain that you're not with a heavy drinker who is going to insult your friends or become sickeningly sick, in circumstances that may be embarrassing you. They can be a heavy drinker if they choose to be, but not when it intrudes open your relationship. So there is the difference. How do you date a heavy drinker? Again, have ground rules. You're both on the same page. This is Doctor Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.