If you want to be heard, whisper. How to be mysterious. This is Doctor Paul author of Boomer Girls, a boomer woman's guide to men and dating. How to be mysterious is a mystery to me sometimes because some people do it so well. The way in which that is operative is to give subtle hints about something and then look away. I was doing work with navel intelligence, well I really can't talk about that, and then the next subject. What do people want to know? The all want to know a secret. Everybody is nosy. And if you want to be mysterious never answer the mystery. That makes you more interesting. Always hold back. Have more than you show and say less than you know, it works. That makes you a mysterious person. Wearing black and going Gothic, that may be mysterious but you have to go beyond that. It's more a matter of look and non response, the James Bond type. He knows something that I don't know and I really want to know it. That's the carry over, over and over. And you have to ask yourself another question. How mysterious do you want to be? That's your choice. this Doctor Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.