hi i'm donna barnett's annual leg and relationship coach and owner of n_y_u_ dating coach in new york city and this clip we'll talk about who should pay on the date uh... everybody kind assumes that the guy's going to pay on the first state any should but if a woman asked the guy out and she wants to be the dominant in relationships and maybe she should pay for the first date but as you start to date and you're spending more time together it's a reality check about the balance of the relationship if you getting somebody's making a lot more money than you and they can pick up a lot more checks but if it said ballots financial situation doesn't hurt to pick up a check here or pick up smaller things the guy she get the bigger things like dinner but you could get dessert or maybe you know if you go to get a spin afterwards if you go to the movies you can pay for the movies so sharing our finances really does help a relationship financial situations are pretty much now so let them and even and let him get the checks in the beginning at them showing that you appreciate a meeting that's taking by contributing tale donna barnes like dating