Are you guilty before being proved innocent? How to say no without feeling guilty. This is Doctor Paul, author of Boomer Girl Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of Ask Doctor Paul. This is a topic that's very, very important to me. I do not do guilt. You do not do guilt. If you said no to someone, then simply ask them what is their about no that you don't understand. I do not want you to feel guilt when you say no. You had a reason for saying no and that's reason enough. Unfortunately in our society, we harbor guilt, maybe in some cases it's a religious thing, maybe in some cases it's a cultural thing, but don't carry that baggage with you. It is demeaning to you and can be depressing. So, when you say no that is your prerogative. There is no need to make excuses for saying no. Period. So I want at this point in your life to absolve yourself of guilt, take that bag of guilt and throw it over you're shoulder when you're standing on the bridge and let it go into the sea, because guilt is not for you. It is not for anyone. It's not the no that hurts, it's the guilt. Get over it. Again, you had a reason for saying no, draw the line. This is Doctor Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.