Submarines surface and so can you. How to start dating again. This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls, a boomer woman's guide to men and dating, and host of ask Dr. Paul. No matter the depths, that a submarine goes to, just like you, it will surface and so will you. Now, the question becomes, how do I start dating again? I've just been through the miserable time that I've experienced, with my ex. Whether it be a husband or a wife, or a boyfriend or a girlfriend, or a fianc?e. Those days are done. The way in which you start dating again, is to drop the baggage. Get centered. Don't carry forward into a new dating situation. All of that waste material you had in the last situation, get over it, and get real. Involve yourself with situations with your friends, and ask them, what do you do? What kind of events are you involved with? I need to get my act together. Do things in groups, and get centered, because the longer you brood about that past experience, the more impact that experience is going to have on you. It's an unhealthy thing mentally, and it's an unhealthy thing in finding new horizons. New people want to know about you. They really don't want to know about where you've been, in a negative situation. It's a story, as always, laugh, the world laughs with you. You cry, you cry alone ,so do it. Get out there and see the people, and make it happen. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today, be your realities of tomorrow.