Stop my subscription. How to refuse a date to ensure no more requests. This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls, A Boomer Women's Guide to Men and Dating. And host of Ask Dr. Paul. Not as easy as it sounds. Because if someone's persistent, it can be awfully annoying. So here are some suggestions. If you're a woman, talking to a man. I'm going back with my ex-husband. That's always a stymie.that will stymie them completely. My ex-boyfriend is coming back from prison. That be a little over done but the picture will be certainly got. Another one, I really want you to know, that I just cannot date at this time. Because I'm having some problems with my family. That's a little weaker but it works. I really want you to know, that for the next six months. I am going to be totally overloaded with work. O.k., that gives them a time frame. It's six months, they'll be gone. But the bottom line there is that he knows that you're a workaholic. Same thing goes with the men. If you have a request. Often times, it comes from a girlfriend. Well, Suzy my friend would like to see you. And you say, well, you know. She's a fine person but I want to tell you something. Same scenario. I'm going back to my ex-wife, my ex-girlfriend. I'm a workaholic. Whatever it maybe. My plate is full. In that case, you want to do something guy. You want to let them down little easy. Especially if a girlfriend calls. Because if you don't do it right, you will be tarred and feathered with a reputation, you do not want. Keep those things in mind for both men and women. this is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.