In the Old West there was such a thing called mail order brides. So how do you get a girlfriend? This is Dr. Paul, author of "Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating" and host of Ask Dr. Paul. Well, there are a lot of ways to get a girlfriend. There are all sorts of dating services on the internet and there's Space Book and you name it. Do you want to go there? Well, maybe, maybe not. Who's out there? Well I don't know. Are these people being genuine when they give you the data or actually is that picture one of their girlfriends who happens to really look good? That may not work for you. How to get a girlfriend basically is a very simple matter. You have to first get a girl that you have otherwise contacted or has been contacted for you and then you have to move from being an acquaintance or a friend to a girlfriend. That's the transition that needs to be taken and that's where a lot of people fall apart. Please listen very carefully. It's a wise idea to bring her friends into the picture. Let her friends evaluate you too and tell her friends that you think this is one of the most interesting people you've ever met. Then it's giving reinforcement to where you already want to go. You really have to like this person. Don't be a phony, be real. "I like this person, I want you to know that I'd really like to see her and I want to make this thing more involved than it is right now". She'll get the picture. And be direct. Don't try to be subtle. "Oh I think maybe, perhaps, almost". No, be direct. "I would really like to see you more often. I think we have a very good rapport and I believe that I need to hear how you feel about this". And then guess what? Say nothing. Let her answer. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.