Saying it and doing it are two separate things. And the question is how to dump your girlfriend? This is Dr. Paul author of Boomer Girls, a woman's guide to men and dating. And host of Ask Dr. Paul. I've had many women call my show talking about the fact that they were dumped by their boyfriends. Now there's a way to do it that will not ruin your reputation with the, believe me hundreds of friends that she has. She may not have hundreds before you dump her but I'll assure you after you dump her she'll have hundreds and they'll all know about you. You don' do it by message. You don't do it by e-mail. You don't let somebody else do it for you. You see her at a public place. And you sit down and look at her in the eyes, and say I really wanted this to work. I need to let you know that it is not working for me. I respect you, I think you're one of the most interesting people I've ever met but it's not going to go in the romantic direction that I'd hoped that it would. I want you to know that I think that you're really outstanding. And I want you to know that you're a fine person. It has nothing to do with you; it has to do with me. Take the responsibility as a man. Don't be a jerk because if you're a jerk I will guarantee you gentleman, you will pay the price. This is Dr. Paul. May all your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.