The uncompliment can be a compliment. How to compliment your girlfriend. This is Doctor Paul, author of Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating, and host of Ask Doctor Paul. The uncompliment. What is an uncompliment? The unexpected. Now, how does that work? If you want to compliment your girlfriend, stay away from the clich?s. Don't go with the same old, same old. It doesn't work. Besides, who cares? Different. "I notice that you're toenails and your fingers match. Same color. I like that." That's a compliment. What does it say to a girl? What it says is, " I see that you took time", and they did, "to care for yourself. And I know you probably did that for me." So, that is a compliment that really is solid. And remember that. What else? "How did you ever find a pair of shoes to match your dress? I've noticed that before on you. That's pretty interesting." That's a compliment. Do you know how much time a woman spends to shop for the shoes and the matching dress, or purse, or whatever? Be aware of that. Look. Okay? That's what it's all about. So the uncompliment, and I'm saying that in regard to it may not sound like a compliment, can be the most impressive compliment. This is Doctor Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.