Baseball and dating. First base, second base etc. What would you do for a second date idea? This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls. A boomer womens guide to men and dating. And host of Ask Dr. Paul. You got through that first date and there is an interest. So alright, let's go for that second date. This is critical. Because that second date is going to show what types of choices you make. What types of decisions you make. Now keep a couple things in mind. Men are visual, women are communicative. And the two now have blended as one. So now that second date is not a place where you want to make an immediate tie down. You want to step it up to the next level. But not to make it a pressure situation. you may want to say, let's go have a little super and go to an event. That maybe there, maybe take a walk down the beach. Maybe we just want to sit outside and chat. Give it some time to expand into communication. And yet, you have somebody to eat together. It doesn't have to be the top of the line restaurant. Not yet, don't go there yet. Because that may make the other defensive. Oh! where's this guy or where's this girl going? So don't bring it on that strong, yet. Keep it withing that framework of casual and yet interested. Casual interest is probably the best suggestion, I can make for that second date. Because what is the purpose of a second date? To get to the third date. So that's the direction, you want to go in. You've had a successful first date . You're now going to the second level. And you're going to go to the next level. So let's not scare anybody off, here. Let's make it work. You know, stay real. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.