hey it's Stephan Erdman here many guys have brought up this notion of telling a girl how you feel about her recently in their emails to me and you may have asked yourself this in the past yourself so um... let's throw a little bit of light on it because well seriously a lot of guys completely mess this up and i have many times myself okay so picture this right guy meets girl guy talks to girl guy and girl meet up as friends guy likes girl in that special way guy then doesn't know whether she does and now guy wants to tell her how he feels about her right so what does he expect from this maybe somewhere deep inside he's hoping that she will say wow now that I know you're into me I am into you great let's go out together yeah but was behind it he wants approval to escalate he wants to check it's ok to kiss her he hopes by saying he likes her she will become attracted to him somehow magically and frankly I also believe on some unconscious level he thinks he's not worthy of her and he wants her to elevate him to her level maybe but here's the thing i think have you ever had a female friend who kind of you liked her but weren't that into at that stage with then suddenly told you that she was secretly in love with you how did you react to you feel more attracted to her or did you feel like withdrawing instantly because you were feeling guilty or responsible because you weren't sure you were attracted to her you weren't sure if you could give her what she really wanted or needed i mean people hate this women men most of us hate feeling guilty and many of us feel guilty instantly when someone is in love with us and we are not in love with them right even though we might have started to become interested in them but if they tell us how they feel about us expecting to be told how we feel about them most of us just wanna run and the getting to know you game has just turned into a game of therapy session in our minds so what to do in general just don't even think about telling a girl how you feel about her because it doesn't have many benefits frankly but many drawbacks hey i'm not saying but never talk about your feelings with a girl but here are two rules ok don't try to manipulate her by telling her how you feel about her don't ever do it before you know she's attracted to you share stuff but come from a place of abundance with that I mean yet give a compliment when you feel like it not because you want her to like you for it okay If you want a girl to check you out as a guy rather than as a guy friend then flirt with her have fun get to know her tease her invite her stuff if you enjoy her company you like hanging out with her you find her cute and charming let that show in how you act with her she will get it trust me so will everyone else around you right we think we're amazingly hard to make out what we are not do you get my point let me know by leaving a comment and i just wanted to share this alright if you want to raise something i promise you know if it's a legal i'll try to answer it okay i'll do my best anyway if you want more from me just go here to the link below the video check it out and please leave a comment let me know what you think of this whether you're with me right and uh... favorite this videotape and show to all your friends if you've ever seen and worried about that so when they come and ask you oh you know can you tell me what shall I do how can I tell her how I feel about her send them to this video right anyway i see you soon bye