fort people in their thirties there feeling that pressure of while in my thirties now i need to be married the twenties are all about exploration people go to creators and then what we're finding is keeping thirty thirty five and suddenly it's well i forgot to get a personal life and i for got to do that's up exploration because i've been so focused on my career there's more pressure on women to be reviewed never met there is something god that is asking a female they want to be a great girl oceana they want to start dating effectively but do they want to be married i don't look at it does well were on a time crunch here marriage should never be able it should be something that you'd like in your life but there needs to be longer look pat's the kind of person you want to be with not just the goal for marriage nothing to do with looks height high color what you're wearing what you're not wearing it's about what you're putting out there there is sort of an automated way people are behaving everybody has a pipe phones and blackberries no one is connecting people are leading the same way you don't see any kind of real conversation happening and then people will come home and lonely and sad nobody's really hear anything in the way that people used to it people are trained to feel anymore they're trying to think thinking is the one for one thing that gets in most people's way of finding some of the people are so afraid to just be themselves so they go online and they may make someone else's profile i love going to paris will get in line he doesn't when i look at profiles what stands out to ny are people that actually talk about the person this person that they're looking for and the quality of that relationship they're looking for and what they median relationship nobody is spending time lingering anymore so how people dating they're going online if you can't get out it's fine but it really is just dipping your toe in the water of your dating life it's not ok to just survive with i'm going to go back to my laptop instead of getting out and going to a coffee shop for going outer being amongst friends they're going home in their locking themselves in a room and looking at the computer screen it's really important thing to talk about 'cause it's what is wrong i don't think people should be looking for than me that's just it and be people should be living you don't think you need to be looking for someone with your same interest at the track what they have in common is their goals were similar their values were similar and that's not something you're going to know in a bar if you've got to have diffuse focus ending i think you can have your eye on the target concerned unless it everytime his surprise and being with someone that's a compliment not be reflection what you want is doing a date all you have to think about is how do i feel when i'm with this person to come off the dates feeling good there's that old expressionism you're not really in love with someone you're in love with who you are with that person that's kind of inside looking and they're looking out people are looking for their reflection at least as well as the wrong way to go about continents is the better and stronger deeper look that's the things that are more important longevity chemistry trying to help catapult you into you know significant relationship and marriage how can a woman state affectively and find somebody that treats her well that's providing for her and women in their thirties they don't want to spend more than a year to with someone without proposal and that's a tough things where you go with that do you continue that relationship until he met shores or do you sort of question into let's get married even though he has a reach that maturity level yet you could actually be exiting the right guy out of your life there is that look at the time frame we've been together for twelve months it's time to get married they could actually be losing the right guy in that way and i don't agree i don't think that women stick around for a really long time either but you do have to consider who you're dating just because a guy it's has a house of youthful karte it doesn't make him ready to be and until people are marriage ready there not a tracking marriage partner i don't believe that there are any great single women laugh there's plenty of singles out there it's about how ready are you for that right person instead of saying item at the right track how about saying i haven't been ready and what's happening with the thirties is they're focusing on work all day they're taking that same energy and they're thinking that they're applying it to their dating life she can't do that that's what's wrong you can't have that white-knuckle grip on i'm going to find her i'm going to find him the thirties is exciting times but it's also sort of that awkward time for people i would just love for people to understand that it's not pressure time that there is so much track and ahead of you to find that person and if you haven't found it yet perhaps there's more to do weakening intellectualizing self interrelationship and out of a relationship people are forgetting that gut feeling that allows them to send we're also clouded with what he's right what if he's wrong too much thinking in on a feeling if you've got your eyes and ears open you will meet someone